A Love Story: Rog & Bee for StyleLikeU.com (by stylelikeu)
“Intimacy is more than a thrill.” Rog Walker
Our #sexualhealing month isn’t about favoring one perspective over another. That being said, in a culture where hooking up is almost perfunctory, we can’t help but be swept away with how Rog and Bee demonstrate that old fashioned commitment is just as badass and pioneering as 21st-century sexual liberation.
Theirs is a Tumblr love story – that’s what Bee, in her sugary American/Amish style, has named her romance with her husband and fellow photographer Rog. After meeting Bee at an Apple store event, Rog proposed on his knees and said, ”I saw you for the first time last year and now I know that I want to see you every day for the rest of my life. Will you marry me?” He is a modern day Romeo through and through, who believes as much in the meaning of sticking to one person as he does in pursuing his artistic passions and to cutting off his crisp button downs or re-dying old-school tasseled loafers instead of throwing them out. Rog would make the most cynical among us melt all their notions that monogamous traditions, like a rewarding marriage, are obsolete
Realizing that being alone was preferable to filling her life with underwhelming, Girls-style boyfriends is what broke Bee free of what she came to see as the Sex and the City legacy of ridiculing sexually devoted relationships. Once the scare quotes around any idea of a committed, faithful relationship were dropped, Rog appeared. “I always thought I’d have to subversively get a traditional relationship, like live with someone for a long time, not get married, or not necessarily have this stable man in my life,” she recalls. Such resignation, though, proved, unnecessary. With Rog, Bee continues to find the sublime simplicity of her being. The two are focused on, as they say, baking bread, not the crumbs. As for her monastic-meets-preppie wardrobe, Bee declares: ”I want to get to the cleanest, fundamental “flatline” of who I am and then meet people as a person rather than as a style or an image.”
The two complement each other in nearly everything, from colored jeans and fixations with details (like layering socks) to bringing their opposing artistic eyes together for photography projects, such as the book Visual Insights: Outer Borough, which they shot, printed, and hand-bound themselves. They both owe their confidence that sharing a life together is where it’s at to their parents, who are all still married. “A lot of us have been paralyzed by too many options,” Bee laments. “Everything seems to be a transaction or a commodity, but at the end of the day I don’t think anybody realizes what’s being given up.” As Rog adds, “You can’t have it all and give nothing. Sexual experience has been extremely cheapened. It’s been demoted to a thrill. It’s not satisfying, it doesn’t last long — it’s a vapor. Intimacy is more than a thrill. There’s a thrill in it, because we have fun. But it’s a committed thrill, not an empty one.”
Video Edited by Shane O’Neill
Posted on Thursday, June 20th 2013
These earrings feature Marsha P. Johnson, a radical Black Trans activist and her signature quote “Pay It No Mind”. Made of lightweight wood with silver hooks. Roughly 2.5” x 1.5”.
For more info on Marsha, check out the video “Pay It No Mind - The Life and Times of Marsha P. Johnson” on youtube!
“Oakland-based Black queer abolitionist organizer, baker & dirt digger. I’m striving to think more creatively about how to live sustainably & autonomously. I’m learning more and more each day about how to better care for myself and others.”
Posted on Wednesday, June 19th 2013
from Killer of Sheep, 1977Killer Of Sheep (1977) A masterpiece of African American filmmaking and one of the finest debuts in cinema history, Killer Of Sheep was chosen for the National Film Registry of the Library of Congress and named one of the 100 Essential Films by the National Society of Film Critics.In the Los Angeles community of Watts, Stan, a sensitive dreamer, is growing detached and numb from the toll of working at a slaughterhouse. Frustrated by money problems, he finds respite in moments of simple beauty: the warmth of a teacup against his cheek, slow dancing with his wife, holding his daughter. Combining lyrical moments with neorealist style, Burnett unfolds his story with compassion and humor.Killer Of Sheep’s haunting images and extraordinary soundtrack are a revelation in this new high-definition transfer from the UCLA Film & Television Archive’s brilliant 35mm restoration. [film link]
Today we at Ubiquity have heavy hearts as we learn of the passing of William Daron Pulliam aka Darondo a true artist, performer, character and friend. RIP. Tribute and more details coming soon.
Get your record digging in, dance w/ the @sweaterfunk crew & vibe with my band #EmbraceBand at Beat Swap Meet: Bay Area 3! • 6.15.2013 • La Pena Cultural Center, Berkeley, CA! My band plays at 2pm! :) #soul #funk #livesounds
The Ronettes before the Beatles’ 1966 concert in Cleveland where they were the opening act.
(via Dangerous Minds)
Posted on Friday, June 14th 2013
Sesame Street: Little Children, Big Challenges: Incarceration - Murray Talks With Nylo (by Sesame Street In Communities)
It’s never easy to talk about an incarcerated loved one in public, and it’s an especially difficult task for children. In 2007 the Sentencing Project estimated that 1.7 million kids in America have at least one parent behind bars, more than 70 percent of whom are children of color. But the task of explaining a complex adult topic to a child may have gotten a little bit less cumbersome now that Sesame Street is involved.
The long-running children’s series has released a new toolkit called “Little Children, Big Challenges: Incarceration” that includes videos, worksheets, and tips for both children and caregivers. The series is aimed at kids ages 2-7 years old, but the tips could be helpful for older kids and even adults, too.
From Sesame Street’s website:
The incarceration of a loved one can be very overwhelming for both children and caregivers. It can bring about big changes and transitions. In simple everyday ways, you can comfort your child and guide her through these tough moments. With your love and support she can get through anything that comes her way. Here are some tools to help you with the changes your child is going through.
Along with videos, the series also includes a list of helpful tips to help children through the complicated emotions that go along with talking about a loved one’s incarceration:
1. Build security. In the morning, let your child know some of the things that will happen throughout the day. For example, “Grandma will pick you up from school. Then you’ll go to the park, and later we’ll all have dinner together.”
2. Share your heart. Give your child a paper heart to keep in her pocket. You might say, “This is to remind you that I love you and will always be there for you.”
3. Express emotions. Take time each day to check in with your child and ask, “How are you feeling?” Remember to let your child know that it’s okay to have big feelings no matter what they are.
4. Answer honestly. When explaining where an incarcerated parent is, you can say, “Daddy is in a place called prison (or jail) for a while. Grown-ups sometimes go to prison when they break a rule called a law.”
5. Stay connected. Phone calls are a great way to reach out. Help your child to think of something she’d like to tell her incarcerated parent, and give her a photo of her parent to hold during the call.
6. Prepare together. Before you visit your incarcerated loved one, let your child know some of the things she can expect to happen. For instance, “We won’t be able to sit in the same room with Mommy, but we can see her through a window and read a story together.”
7. Take care of yourself. Caring for yourself helps you care for your child. At least once a day, do something that you enjoy or find relaxing.
Posted on Thursday, June 13th 2013
Father’s Day Cards for Every Kind of Dad in Your Life Illustration by Micah Bazant (via COLORLINES)
Posted on Thursday, June 13th 2013
Illustration by Amaryllis DeJesus Moleski
Posted on Thursday, June 13th 2013
Marcus Books is the oldest black-owned bookstore in the county. It has been located on San Francisco’s Fillmore Street since 1981. The bookstore currently faces eviction.
Posted on Monday, June 10th 2013